Jewel Evelyn "Judy" Koehler, beloved aunt, RIP 11/11/1929-11/25/2008
Found out last night when I came home from work that my beloved Aunt Judy passed away. Ironically, I was lobbying the family to go see her just last week. She had severe diabetes and was in a nursing home down in Joplin due to the fact that none of us could get her to take care of herself and take her medicine. Since we (meaning the family) didnt have the money to pay for her care (well, I sure didnt, but some of us did and didn't lift a finger to help...my family's that way sometimes. The ones that care can't afford to help and the ones that can afford to help don't care...), the nursing home took her social security money and paid for her care thru that and Medicaid. They also placed her status as a "ward of the state" since her family couldn't afford her care. The state of MO is forcing upon us several issues - such as cremation instead of burial, etc. - and its bothersome, but, what can one do when one is economically powerless to fight it.
She almost died about 5 years ago - was in a diabetic coma for a couple of days - and came out afterwards in poor physical condition in a wheelchair for the remainder of her days. This is the woman who taught me how to dance, how to respect others opinions and how to appreciate what I have. Due to severe manic depression she suffered through in the latter stages of her adult life which developed into full blown schitzophrenia (she fought this disease throughtout her life, but, as she aged, it became worse and worse (thus the reasoning behind her not taking care of herself medication-wise, and the reasoning behind some of the family's decision not to help (my assumption, however, folks must realize that blood is thicker, as they say...))), she didnt really have much of a life, however, she was kind and gracious in her younger years, and in her later years as well when she was coherent. She was loved and she will be missed. Have her in your thoughts and prayers on this holiday of thanksgiving. I know we will, and will be giving thanks that she is in a better place (I hate that phrasing sometimes, how do we know, right??? But, as she suffered later in life, I believe that yes, this is true now...) and that we had the chance to experience her life, regardless of difficulties or successes, for the length of time that we did. Rest in peace, Judy.
She almost died about 5 years ago - was in a diabetic coma for a couple of days - and came out afterwards in poor physical condition in a wheelchair for the remainder of her days. This is the woman who taught me how to dance, how to respect others opinions and how to appreciate what I have. Due to severe manic depression she suffered through in the latter stages of her adult life which developed into full blown schitzophrenia (she fought this disease throughtout her life, but, as she aged, it became worse and worse (thus the reasoning behind her not taking care of herself medication-wise, and the reasoning behind some of the family's decision not to help (my assumption, however, folks must realize that blood is thicker, as they say...))), she didnt really have much of a life, however, she was kind and gracious in her younger years, and in her later years as well when she was coherent. She was loved and she will be missed. Have her in your thoughts and prayers on this holiday of thanksgiving. I know we will, and will be giving thanks that she is in a better place (I hate that phrasing sometimes, how do we know, right??? But, as she suffered later in life, I believe that yes, this is true now...) and that we had the chance to experience her life, regardless of difficulties or successes, for the length of time that we did. Rest in peace, Judy.
Your nephew
David
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